Ah you captured so well the balance between finding how our childhood influenced us vs going full send in blaming others. I’ve definitely been there and truthfully can find myself back in that place too. It sounds like though you have a lot of love for your parents and in the end, we’re all doing the best we can!
Beautiful tribute and acknowledgment of the humanity in parents. I remember reading James Baldwin’s Go Tell it on the Mountain in college and recall how it made me realize the struggle of not becoming too much like our parents and also acknowledging and accepting we came from them. We grow up with so many rights and wrongs. Do this, don’t do that. And then as adults, at some point, much of our life becomes both or neither. Helps when we see that in our folks. If nothing else, being a parent shines a big ass light on that. Hardest job you should never quit. Cool how you used a funny moment in a grocery store to serve as a window (or mirror) for that.
Ah you captured so well the balance between finding how our childhood influenced us vs going full send in blaming others. I’ve definitely been there and truthfully can find myself back in that place too. It sounds like though you have a lot of love for your parents and in the end, we’re all doing the best we can!
thank you, Michelle! I can relate to getting pulled back into that way of thinking as well. The work never stops !
Beautiful tribute and acknowledgment of the humanity in parents. I remember reading James Baldwin’s Go Tell it on the Mountain in college and recall how it made me realize the struggle of not becoming too much like our parents and also acknowledging and accepting we came from them. We grow up with so many rights and wrongs. Do this, don’t do that. And then as adults, at some point, much of our life becomes both or neither. Helps when we see that in our folks. If nothing else, being a parent shines a big ass light on that. Hardest job you should never quit. Cool how you used a funny moment in a grocery store to serve as a window (or mirror) for that.